1. Give respect to your husband.
We husbands don’t like to admit it, but we are absolutely desperate for your respect! When we believe that you believe in us, we feel like we can conquer the world, but when we believe you don’t believe in us, we can barely get through the day. Even in those moments when your husband doesn’t “deserve” your respect, give it anyways, and your actions will actually help shape him into the courageous man of character God intended for him to be.
“So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” Ephesians 5:33
2. Be yourself (and allow your husband to be himself too).
Bring out the best in each other, but never try to change each other. Be the unique masterpiece God created you to be, and allow your husband to do the same (quirks and all)! As I’ve already stated above, you can learn from others, but don’t feel like you’ve got to compare yourself or your life to anyone else.
“For you are God’s masterpiece, created in Christ Jesus to do good works which God prepared in advance for you to do.” Ephesians 2:10
3. Create a positive tone in the home.
More than any other person in the house, the wife has the power to set the tone in the home, so set a good one! Foster an atmosphere where encouragement, laughter, discipline, hard work, fun, love and grace all flow together in harmony. For more on this, check out our free video series on The 4 Pillars of a Strong Marriage.
“She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future. When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness. She carefully watches everything in her household and suffers nothing from laziness.” Proverbs 31:25-27
4. Prioritize what happens in the bedroom.
It takes more than sex to build a strong marriage, but it’s nearly impossible to build a strong marriage without it. For most men, sexual fulfillment is their number one need in marriage, and by making it a priority, every aspect of the marriage will usually improve as a result. For more on this, check out our new video series on building a stronger and more fulfilling sex life in marriage.
“The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs.” 1 Corinthians 7:3
5. Fall in love…with God!
The more you love God, the more capacity you will have to love your husband, your kids and yourself. Make your relationship with Him the foundation of your life and everything else will fall into place.
“Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised. Reward her for all she has done. Let her deeds publicly declare her praise.” Proverbs 31:30-31
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