Wednesday 18 January 2017

Why Bad Choices Kill: & How to Make the Right Choices

Every Choice Has a Consequence
Emerson Fosdick said “He who chooses the beginning of a road chooses the place it leads to”. Every choice leads to a destination. When you make a choice in life, you have chosen the start of a road and the consequence is that you’ll end up in the destination where the road leads.
If you are in Abuja for example and you move toward the road that leads to Lokoja, you have automatically chosen Lokoja as a destination even though you’re still in Abuja. That’s how it is with life. If you start attending a music school today, the consequence in that sooner or later you’ll end up a musician. Similarly, if you register for a law program today, the consequence is that you’ll end up a lawyer. Every choice has a consequence and you have to be aware of that.
If you choose a particular way of life, you’ll soon find yourself at the tail end of it. For example, if you choose to be a drug addict today, you’ll soon end up in jail or even a rehab center. The jail is the destination for those who have chosen to be drug dealers and addicts. If as a lady, you choose to live a wayward life, you might soon start nursing children that don’t know their fathers.
If you choose the beginning of a road, you have chosen the end of it. So it’s necessary to find out the consequences of every decision before you take it. Remember, like I mentioned earlier, you cannot blame anyone except yourself for your choices and the resultant consequences.
Choose Only What Is Required
Next, you must learn to choose what you need, not what you want. Every assignment has specified needs. There are specific things you need to fulfill purpose, and you must go for need rather than want. Choices must be need based not want based.
Every stage of your life has its own requirements and you must be aware of the requirement for each stage in order to make the right choices. Stop trying to get by all means what you need for the next stage when you haven’t put in place all you need for the stage you are in right now.
Why is an 18 year old boy in 200 Level looking for a wife? He doesn’t need a wife at that particular stage of his life. What he needs is to focus on his education and come out with the best grades he possibly can. You have to know what you need and when you need it.
It’s just like the story I told earlier about Mary and Martha. Martha was concerned about what she wanted but Mary was concerned about what she needed. Jesus was however quick to draw Martha’s attention to the importance of focusing on what she needed, rather than what she wanted.
Action Validates Choices
When you have made a choice and you don’t act on it, you reduce its value. Choices are worthless without relentless actions. Arnold Glasow said “ideas not coupled with action can never become bigger than the brain cells they occupy”. When you take steps, your choices become reality. When you hesitate, they remain mere ideas in your head. We can therefore conclude that the value of your choices is defined by the steps you have taken to bring them into fruition.
Although you have chosen to enroll into a law program, you don’t become a lawyer by sitting on the couch all day, growing fat. You have to attend lectures, do your assignments, write a series of test and exams and scale through several huddles. It is action that validates choices.

You cannot fulfill destiny without taking giant strides. If you wanna be a giant, you must dare many things. If you don’t dare it, you can’t have it. Remember it is not enough to have an intention. It’s not even enough to make a decision. You must get up and make it happen. 

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